In a wide-ranging conversation Thursday at Sanders Theatre, surgeon-author Atul Gawande faced up to his own limits, including the mortality we all share. But it didn’t come easy.
“I think I’m very uncomfortable with imperfection and in being fallible and how you live with your own imperfection,” Gawande told Harvard Divinity School Dean David Hempton. “I’m sure it’s driven by a sense of discomfort with the fact that [you can’t be] perfect, and then taking responsibility for other people, responsibility for making a difference in the world. How to know whether you’re making matters better or worse — how do you live with that?”
Hempton spoke with the Brigham and Women’s surgeon and New Yorker staff writer about his latest book, “Being Mortal,” as well as his recent decision to take on the daunting challenge of designing more efficient health care systems for employees of Amazon, JPMorgan Chase, and Berkshire Hathaway. The 80-minute discussion, part of the annual Ingersoll Lecture on Immortality at the Divinity School’s convocation, extended to Gawande’s massive record collection and affinity for rock music.
Asked about “Being Mortal,” Gawande noted that many people spend their final days in a desperate battle to stave off the inevitable, meaning that their last moments with family and friends are spent in a medical institution, hooked up to tubes and machines. Part of that reality stems from the assumption by many in the medical field that patients are most concerned with avoiding pain and extending life, he said.
In fact, Gawande said, patients “have priorities in their lives aside from living longer. The goal isn’t just immortality; it isn’t just survival at all costs.”
People are willing to sacrifice their health, their finances, even their lives for what’s important to them, he said, citing family, country, religion, beauty, and justice. Patients want to be at peace, often with a higher power, to have a sense of an arc to their lives, and to not be a burden to others. Some want to continue working as long as possible. Others want to enjoy simple pleasures and comforts. He told the story of one patient who said he should be kept alive as long as he was able to enjoy chocolate ice cream and watch football on television.
The problem, Gawande said, is that patients and doctors are not communicating about these priorities. Such conversations are difficult and physicians aren’t well-trained in how to lead them. Instead, doctors present patients with facts about their diagnoses, potential treatment avenues, and probabilities of survival, and then tell them it is their decision.
As a result, he said, patients feel abandoned and overwhelmed because the fact-based presentation doesn’t address the implications for their everyday lives. Were doctors to initiate conversations about what’s most important to patients in their final days, treatment could be tailored accordingly.
“Just simply asking people: What are your priorities for your quality of life, as well as your minimum quality of life? What are you willing to sacrifice, as well as not willing to sacrifice?” Gawande said.
Gawande said he realized as he wrote the book that it was not just about facing death but also about the everyday presence of mortality.